To the Judgemental Mom in the play place
Your child is a bully.
When I come to ask for your help with your child who is causing mine to cry due to meanness and awful name calling, do not just smirk at me and say in a glib voice, “he is just being a boy.”
Name calling, pushing, and shoving is not “just being a boy”, especially when it pertains to a girl or a younger child. The scene included said child picking on each and every child in the play place. Now, call me an over protective Momma Bear if you want, but I am their protector.
Yes, there are things I cannot prevent. I know it. You know it. This “life lesson” was made tougher as the above kid turned his “just being a boy” actions onto my son, who was certainly younger and is under the autistic umbrella. He doesn’t comprehend things. He struggles with this social concept. Upon “fist rough play” beginning (yes, ma’am your Little bully started using his fists) and my son crying, I approach “Judgemental Mom” again. I have never wanted to crush a smartphone more.
With a smug grin, “that is how boys play. Your son will live.”
No duh! Because I will tend to him, but who are you to pass judgment when I share that my son has comprehension issues and is under the autistic umbrella. Your son is using HIS FISTS! How dare you laugh. How dare you roll your eyes while stating “who isn’t anymore?” I was seeking your help with YOUR CHILD. It is called BE a PARENT and tends to your misbehaving child.
You, Ma’am, should be praising the Lord for your healthy little bully. That you don’t have to fear going out in public because you are unsure how your son is going to handle it. You, ma’am, are one of the MAIN reasons I STAY home with my child. Not only did your son hurt mine, but you hurt me and my feelings. I want my son to be around other children. It is good for him to learn to be social and how to handle social situations. But he should not have to put up with a “Bully on a restaurant play place”. He shouldn’t have to deal with a bully at all.
So, Judgemental Mom, I have one thing to say, “STOP.” Stop your kid. Stop thinking you are the best thing this side of sliced bread. Stop. Stop thinking you are perfect. You are not. Your child is bound for a hard future. There is always a bigger meanie out there. And actions always circle back, good or bad.
From one struggle real-life Mom…just STOP…we all poop the same way.
Do you know the definition of “Bully”?
StopBullying.gov defines it fully, but the short version is “Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems.”
Bullying has effects…it hurts children and adults. Visit StopBullying.gov and READ, LEARN, and KNOW what bullying really is. Teach your children that to bully is to break down another in meanness and it is WRONG.
Do you know the definition of Autistic?
Autism Society defines it as “Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a complex developmental disability, typically appearing during childhood and affecting a person’s ability to communicate and interact with others.”
Autism is not something to fear, but to know more about. And the Autism Society site is the best that I have found for answers. READ, LEARN, and KNOW how you can be helpful to a parent with an autistic child.
BE KIND. BE HELPFUL. And ASK if assistance is needed.
As always, Thank you for stopping by. It was a pleasure to have you visit.